你还年轻，不要让自己过得太闲

最近很长一段时间，我都在加班，回到家还得想想怎么写文，怎么和合伙人把公众号做好，朋友约我逛街吃饭，总是被我推辞。他们说，要不是给我打电话，真以为我进了什么传销组织，成日昏天黑地的干活，还一副鸡血满满，斗志昂扬的样子。

I often work extra hours. After the hours, I go home and be busy with my writing and the way of making the Public Number on Wechat with my partners. One day, my friends asked me to go shopping but said "No". Later, I often said "No". My friends gave me a call and told me that I was misunderstood in MLM, working all the day with enough passion.

我知道，自己并没有过人的智商，也没有什么背景，想要做成一件事，总是得花上比别人更多的时间，所以不能没有鸡血，没有斗志，否则拿什么来逼着自己前行？

I really know my IQ is not higher, and my background is not better, I will always spend more time in getting what I want if I really succeed in doing it. So, if no passion ,no will, what will force me to go forward?

有个姐姐总是劝我，你还年轻，是玩耍的大好时候，何必忙成这个样子？

One of my sisiters asked me why not enjoy myself at a young age. Why make yourself so busy?

其实，谁不想愉快的谈个恋爱，或者嫁个有钱人少奋斗几十年。只是我知道，所有的幸福都是建立在你有实力的基础之上的。比起灰姑娘的故事，我更愿意相信，旗鼓相当与势均力敌。当你自身具备闪耀的光芒时，自会被人望见，也自会有同样闪光的人，与你携手并肩。

Actually, who would not like to fall in love with Mr Right or Mrs Right or get married with him or her? But I know happiness is based on what you really have. I would rather believe we are well-matched than envy every Cinderell's story. When you glitter like gold, the one who also glitter like gold will go hand in hand with you.

对于她说的，我总是笑笑。我不敢告诉她，自己还准备考研究生。每周五下班，我火急火燎的赶场上课，一直到晚上十点，而周末也是全天满课，比起几年前读大学的时候，我更忙了，但是收获也更多了。

When she says that , I always give her a smile. I never tell her I am preparing fot put graduate exams. Every Fridays, I am in a hurry to take lessons after work until 10 p.m while my weekends is full of lessons too. I am busier but get more than before.

我自己清楚， 时光会一点一点从指尖溜走。有一天，我们可能不再年轻，但是我希望那时的自己，能活的更加从容淡定，有足够的能力应对生活里的波澜，有成熟的思维，厚实的荷包，给自己与所爱的人幸福。所以，我不敢太闲，也不愿太闲。

Time to rush folwing and flow away quietly. In the future, we will not be young any longer but I hope I will live unhurriedly,have enough capacities to deal with the problems of my life, enough money and thoughts to bring happiness to myself and the ones who I love. So, I have no courage to be free and I do not want to be free now.

认识一个刚毕业没多久的学妹，常常发微信问我，人生很迷茫很无措，逢考必败，工作也不顺心，日子过得好让人心累绝望，怎么办？

我问她，“那你有做些什么来改变吗？”

她说 ：“我就是不知道该做些什么，所以才苦恼？”

Someone who is a recent graduate, she always chatted with me on Wechat about how to do in confusion. She never passed the exams she used to registered for and never found a good job. She asked me what she should do when life is filled with dispair.

And I also asked her one question "What changes have you made?"

she said,"I just don't know what changes I should do, so I am in trouble."

我有些无语了，但不好意思的直接戳穿。她这哪里是迷茫啊！只不过是太闲了，想的太多做的太少，才有时间感叹那些无谓的烦恼。倘若是把那些精力花在努力改变现状，努力提升自己上，那又怎么会迷茫呢？

I was a bit speechless and never told her the following words:

she was not in confusion but felt too bored to do more instead of thinking mire. If it takes her more time to change her current situation to improve herself, how can she make herself in confusion?

后来，我们又聊到了一些事情，才知道，她平时郁闷的时候，就去看韩剧，耗费了大量的时间。等追剧结束后，才猛然意识到自己浪费了光阴，心情更加低落，自能再找下一部剧，周而复始。

Later, we chatted about something boring in life and I knew she used to waste too much time to see South Korean TV soaps when she felt bored. After that,she  suddenly realized she wasted her time and felt more bored, and the only way she can think about was to see the next one. Again and again.

我给了她一个建议，不妨写写影评什么的。她果真坚持去做了，都快一年了。开始的时候，她常常发文给我看，渐渐地，她发的次数也少了，因为越来越忙。现在她变成了一个作家，更让人意外的是，她竟然跑去剧组，兼职做起编剧助理。

One suggestion I gave her was to write comments on films or TV plays. she had gone on  for about one year and often sent her comments to me. Gradually, she sent fewer and fewer because she became busier and busier. Now, she is a writer and to my surprise,she get a part-time job as a television writers'  assisdant when she is crazy about joining the theater group.

她告诉我现在每天都要做很多事情，虽然是累了点，但是过的却很充实。当生活忙碌 起来，根本没有时间无病呻吟，胡思乱想，更没有时间迷茫，当所有的精力都放在努力与奋斗上时，人生开始变得有意义，而一个个的成功也会纷至而来。

She says to me, "Now there are too many things I want to do every day, I am very happy although I am very tired ."  If your life is busy, you'll have no time to complain , think more and fall in confusion. When all the effort is put into progress, life is becoming more and more meaningful and success is coming fast.

很多人都问过我，怎样才不算是过的太闲？

Many people asked me this question "How to define 'too free' "

每个人对生活的期望都不同，但是当晚上躺在床上，能细细数出这一整天做了什么，并且不会因为没把握好时光而不安和自责，不会因为自己毫无成就而对未来彷徨，那么这一天对你来水就没有虚度。

Different people  have different hopes.However, when you lie in bed ,you can count what you did the whole day and didn't have any worries and self-accusation because of wasting time,didn't be worried about your future because of no achievement. The day is no waste for you.

当清晨醒来的时候，脑中早已经做了了一天的计划，并愿意为之调动所有的热情，昂扬斗志的完成所有。你愿意相信，只要自己坚持下去，就能日游所进，那么，这一天对你来说就是有意义的。

Every morning, when you wake up, plans of the whole day has been in your mind and you will be willing to devote your all passion to finishing them. You will be willing to believe I will make progress every day if I keep doing. The day is meaningful for you.

我们现在才二三十岁，对于整个人生而言，仅是个开端。一切皆有可能，我们不必迷茫，不必太早享受安逸，而该去做自己想做的事情，去过自己想要的生活。

Now, we are at a young age, it is just the beginning if our lives. Nothing is impossible. Not necessary to make us in confusion and to enjoy early at ease. What we should do is to do what we want and to live the life we want whatever comes in life.

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